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Being a Person Who Attracts Others

What makes an attractive person? Is it personality, looks, character....

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Actions That Make Each Day Better

There are practical steps we can all take to improve our life and increase our value to others...

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Breaking Bad Habits

Chains of habit are too light to be noticed until they are too heavy to be broken....

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The Confident Person. Part 2

Self-confidence comes from the way you think about yourself....

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The Confident Person. Part 1

How do you head-off low self-esteem and move towards confidence?....

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Are You Mentally Tough? Part 2

Mentally tough people are able to embrace change...

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Are You Mentally Tough? Part 1

Mental toughness is not just something you have or have not; it can be developed...

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The Problem of Pride

Pride can go unnoticed, unless someone points it out...

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Depression Threathens, But there is a Way Out

What happens when circumstances go contrary to your hopes and expectations....

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Out of the Comfort Zone

Continuing on the theme of my last blog (Personal Transformation)....

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Personal Transformation

Continuing my journey....

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What is Success in life & How is it Attained?

Some of the things I have learned from personal experience....

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Do We Find Honesty in the Modern World?

Honesty leads to trust: "Doing the right thing all of the time" - C S Lewis.....

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Living in Health

Since the COVID19 Lockdown I have observed many more people taking exercise....

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Setting Healthy Boundaries, Part 2 - How to do it!

Establishing personal and professional boundaries is important and may be vital to the well-being of your family...

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Setting Healthy Boundaries, Part 1 - The Need!

In recent times the national news has focused on mental health, especially amongst professional sports people....

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Rules That We Live By

We all have unwritten rules that we live by....

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Be Careful How You Speak to Yourself

Do you talk to yourself when there is no one there to hear you?....

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What is Success and How is it Measured?

In western societies money is probably the most well recognised measure of success....

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How are Your Communication Skills?

Our capacity to listen is often overlooked when we are engaged in communication.....

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Actions Make Leaders, Not Titles!

How would you recognise leadership quality in someone?.....

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Identify the Time-Wasters in Your Life

They say time flies when you are enjoying yourself.....

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If Only?

Have you ever heard someone say, "If I had known then what I know now, I would have done things differently"

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Small Changes that Make a Big Difference

Happiness, Success and Contentment Depend in Large Measure on......

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Loneliness, Friend or Foe?

The COVID19 Pandemic has brought into public focus an issue which has always been there under the surface of our busy society....

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How Can We Get From Dreams to Reality?

We all have dreams. I don't simply mean those dreams we have when sleeping, but those we have about what we would like to see happen in our lifetime. ...

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Spring-Clean Your Habitual Behaviours

Spring-cleaning is not just about the family home, it can also be applied to the people who live there...

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What Price Joy?

Does it seem out of place to talk about joy when we are in the middle of an international emergency due to the COVID19 pandemic?

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Taking the Initiative is So Important, Both for You & Others

Innovation in not the exclusive domain of those people who are talented or clever. The Covid19 Emergency has demonstrated that...

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The Process of Change

Change is not a fearful thing, there are manageable steps you can take towards improvement....

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Ways to Reach Your Personal Best

To reach your personal best you need to learn how to challenge the person you see in the mirror....

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Trade-offs in the Course of Life

Are you willing to give up today's security for the potential of tomorrow?

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Choosing Those Who Influence Your Life, Part 2

How Do We Choose Our Most Influential Friends?

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Choosing Those Who Influence Your Life, Part 1

If you want to be successful in your life, the single most effective thing you can do is choose your closest friends wisely......

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Overcoming Fear

In these days of Coronavirus (COVID19) threat, keeping your composure and listening to good advice is so important, both for yourself and those around you......

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How Do We Forgive?

How do we find the capacity to forgive people who have hurt or wronged us?......

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What Does Genuine Humility Look Like?

Humility does not appear to have much value in our current world, but actually it's a powerful virtue......

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Dealing with Criticism

How we respond to criticism reveals a lot about our character.....

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Could You Be a History Maker?

Long before I reached my teens, I had decided my life’s ambition. I wanted to be a professional footballer.....

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Hearing God Speak in 2020

Did you know that God wants to speak to everyone, even those who think they have no connection with him?.....

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Who are you and What is the Source of Your Self-Worth?

Do we accept what our British culture says about us?.....

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Finding a Partner in the Modern World

The dating site eHarmony reports that by 2031 about 50% of couples will have met online.....

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The Value of Childlike Trust

Early in the New Year I came across this report from a young family. A point of stress had arisen: One of their two young sons had developed an intense fear of dying....

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Connecting with Disconnected People in 2020

The Christmas holiday can be difficult since we feel obligated to get together with family and friends, some of which are not those whom we would choose to spend time with....

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Qualities that Enable You to Thrive Under Pressure

Some of us respond to external pressures better than others. How do you fair when others are witnessing your performance?.....

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Do You Have a Transformed Mind?

I challenge you to check yourself out against these criteria, before you answer this question.....

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The Value of an Optimistic Attitude

What we believe determines the way we think, our attitude to life and the way we behave....

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Who holds the Key to your Identity?

Performing in order to be accepted by others is very common in western society. But what about our actual identity?...

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Is there an Escape from Shame?

Have you ever felt ashamed because of something you have said or done? What was your reaction to this situation?...

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Are You a Proud or a Humble Person?

Have you noticed how some people seem uncomfortable, even embarrassed when they receive a complimentary remark or praise for what they have done?

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Areas of Life that Determine Your Success

However you measure success, these parts of your life will affect the outcome…

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Habits Which Enable You to Become a Better Leader

Before you ignore this blog on the grounds that you are not a leader in the first place, please note that I am thinking of leadership in a wider sense than a recognised position of authority.....

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Is "The Pursuit of Happiness" a Selfish Aim?

Is the so-called "pursuit of happiness" simply the pursuit of personal pleasure or something else?....

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The Invidious Nature of Envy

Envy is often seen as a fairly low level of bad behaviour. After all we are all envious of somebody or something aren't we? It can, however, be much more serious than it first appears.....

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Are You At Odds With God?

This is a question I have asked myself and those I have mentored on many occasions. You can be at odds with him and not realise it.

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Why Can't You Forgive Them?

There are many reasons why we feel unable to forgive those people who have hurt or miss-used us......

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Are Calling & Career Different? Part 2

Following Part 1, I offer 7-more things that characterise and authenticate calling.....

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Are Calling & Career Different? Part 1

Do you have a calling, or do you simply earn a living? Or perhaps you feel more inclined to call your job a vocation or even a passion. How do you see what most of us spend at least one third of their lives doing?....

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How are We supposed to Know which One is the "Right One"?

How do you choose the person who is right for you: A personal experience...

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Heed These Warning Signs Before Engagement or Marriage

Is being "in love" all you need when you are thinking of spending the rest of your life with someone?

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The Value of Respect in Partnership and Marriage

In the current core values of British society, respect doesn't have a very high rating. This can have serious negative consequences in the context of partnership or marriage....

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What Does Your Wife or Partner Need From Your Relationship?

As a man in a relationship with a woman, a key quality she needs from you is the capacity to listen....

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Love & Romance: Some Lies Our Culture Gives Us

Have you been influenced by things people believe and quote as though they are obviously true?....

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Remaining Calm When Facing Life's Problems

What do you do when problems pile up and you feel that you just can't cope?.....

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Dealing with Jealousy

Jealousy leads us to try to highlight the weaknesses of others, to reduce their value, to develop a case against them.....

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Defeating Anxiety

I fell apart on one particular day due to an extremely painful situation in my life which flattened me.....

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Managing the Digital Age Revolution

In the opening quarter of the 21st century we have the world at our figure-tips. Our mobiles, i-pods and laptops give us instant access to information from virtually any location on the planet....

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Playing Without Fear

Coco Gauff, the American tennis player, playing her first Wimbledon this year, inspired me to write this blog......

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Doctors Order Chaplains for Surgeries

This was the headline of an article in "The Times", 27 June 2019. It appears that GPs face problems that cannot be treated with medication.....

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The Positive Type of Fear

In my last blog I talked about dealing with fear when it is a distressing and negative emotion. But there is another kind of fear which is positive....

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Dealing with Fear

Fear has been described as the greatest enemy of our generation: So what is the best way of dealing with it?.....

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Misconceptions

Are "niceness" and "kindness" the same thing? Does "being honest" mean that we always tell the truth?....

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Our Expectation & Behaviour is Directly Related to What We Believe.

There are many well accepted quotations that sound right, but are not authentic....

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Do You Believe in Good and Evil?

If your answer to this question is, "Yes", then it may be worthwhile to consider the source of these two opposite moral positions...

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Making Soul-Ties

Soul-ties are very common: Marriage, family relationships, romantic relationships. But there are both good and bad soul-ties.......

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The Battle for Our Mind

Have you heard the phrase, "The mind is the devil's playground"?....

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A Christian is Someone Who Lets God Do Something for Them.

Many years ago, when I first came across this definition of a Christian, I was surprised, even shocked.....

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Constant Change is Here to Stay, Part 2

In more recent times I have come to realise that the phase, "Constant Change is Here to Stay", has a much wider application that that briefly described in Part 1....

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Constant Change is Here to Stay

Generally people don't like change, but in the Kingdom of God here on earth change is something we have to learn to expect....

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Hearing & Knowing the Voice of God.
Part 2: How He Speaks.

God has various ways of speaking to us. If we want to hear him, it helps if we are tuned in to how he is likely to communicate with us.....

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Hearing and Knowing the Voice of God.
Part 1: The Things He Speaks to us About.

Do you want direction, confirmation and an indication of your destiny?....

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How do we Improve our Mental Health?

The NHS has to take some responsibility for the poor state of mental health provision in the UK. Lack of government financial provision and planning is also a key issue. There is however another significant factor which is largely overlooked.........

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Faith that Leads to Inner Rest and Peace

Inner rest and peace are gifts from God. They come from his presence.........

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Where does Fake News come from and where could it lead us?

We have heard a lot about “fake news” recently. US President, Donald Trump has drawn our attention to it regularly since his inauguration........

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Do We Believe What We See?

The news media publishes various versions of the truth: which one are we to believe?.......

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Life in the Fast Lane and Relationship with God

No relationship can thrive and develop unless it is given time and attention. This applies to human relationships as well as relationship to God.......

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Are You Emotionally Intelligent? Part 2

IIn Part 1 of this blog I outlined 6-characteristics of people with high Emotional Intelligence (EQ). In Part 2 I identify a further 8-indicators of high EQ, so that you can check your credentials further.....

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Are You Emotionally Intelligent? Part 1

In my last blog I gave an outline of the traits of Emotionally Intelligent (EQ) people. This time I invite you to check yourself out against the hallmarks of high EQ....

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Are You Emotionally Intelligent or Simply Intelligent?

90% of the most successful people have high Emotional Intelligence (EQ). So what is EQ and why does it appear to be more important than IQ?...

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Antidote to a Poverty Mind-Set

In a previous Blog I outlined some of the ways in which a poverty mind-set reveals itself. This Blog explains how some of these negative ways of thinking can be overcome.....

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Core Values for a Healthy Marriage Relationship

When you fall in love, you may think that the way you feel about each other will carry you through anything life may throw at you....

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Do You Have a Poverty Mind-Set?

A Poverty Mind-Set is not about current income or status, it's more to do with how you see yourself and the world around you....

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What is the Difference Between Behaviour Modification and Transformation?

The objective of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), as practiced by most professional counsellors, is behaviour modification...

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How Are We Supposed to Understand the Bible, Part 2

The Bible can be a difficult book to understand, especially if we don't realize that its purpose is to show us what God is like and lead us to know Him.

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How Are We Supposed to Understand the Bible?

The Bible is consistently an annual best selling book. The life of Jesus in particular evokes great interest. But why was the Bible written and for what purpose?

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Supernatural Provision

We are not always supposed to live from direct supernatural provision for our immediate needs, like the Isaelites did in the desert after leaving Eygpt. However, when circumstances dictate that we have to do this it can be very exciting and just a little scary....

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The Value of Dreams

In The Bible God uses dreams and visions to communicate his plans and warnings to people in some very significant situations. He has not changed his ways....

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Knowing Beforehand

Being able to predict that something will happen makes it all the more exciting when it actually does happen as predicted, provided of course what was predicted was also desired....

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Receiving Direction

God speaks to us in many ways. For example; Dreams, visions, prophecy, an inner voice, verses from the bible etc. Direction can come from unexpected sources, in circumstances we could not predict....

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An Answer to Depression?

It seems that depression is on the increase. It is now recognized as a worldwide cause of disability. This raises many questions, but do these questions have answers?

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Deliverance

In this day of scientific knowledge and enlightenment, we are inclined to dismiss the presence and activity of evil spirits as figments of the imagination or hocus-pocus. However, there are many instances where such activity blights the lives of people. Here is an example....

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A Personal Prophecy

Personal Prophecy is a message from God, delivered by one person to another by means of the spiritual gift of prophecy. This message has not been prepared before-hand, but is spontaneous. The person giving the message may never have met or even seen the recipient before!

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Conflict Resolution in Relationships

Disagreements can lead to all kinds of relationship breakdowns. Tensions may remain, hurts, people being offended and sometimes never recovering from it. How we handle our disagreements can be very important in shaping our future.

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Changing Your Way of Thinking

Personal experiences influence our beliefs which, in turn, affect our decisions and choices: these produce results in our life. The way we think is crucial in this process. So can we change the way we think?

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Help and Release from the Demanding Modern World

The pressures of life reach us all, even children. How does our modern society cope?

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The Problem of False Humility

In a recent blog, entitled “Gentleness & Humility”, I concluded that pride stands between us and God perhaps more than any other thing. However, its opposite, humility, is not something that comes easily to most of us.

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The Positive Impact of Love and Patience

How do we deal with other peoples' mistakes and bad decisions, especially when we have to pay for the consequences of them?

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Gentleness and Humility

The person with this fruit of the Holy Spirit has an advantage over all others, because no-one can put them down.

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Breaking Addictions 2: How to be Strong in Spirit

Being strong in spirit will enable you to be in control of both your body and soul (mind, will and emotions). You can also rule and reign over your circumstances and challenges.

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Breaking Addictions

What are you addicted to? What can't you live without? Are times when you wonder if you are in control of yourself?

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Dreams & Visions; Their Source & Authenticity

God often uses dreams or visions to speak to people who do not believe he exists, like Pharaoh, king of Egypt, or Nebuchadnezzar, king of Babylon, in Bible times. These dreams needed interpretation because they were full of symbolism. However, they contained life or death messages and were therefore very significant. Dreams and visions bypass the mind and speak to the heart. They can communicate things our mind would struggle to grasp, or would not even be able to accept at all.

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Dreams & Visions; Examples & Who Should Interpret?

Dreams and Visions are worth taking seriously. The Bible contains many significant dreams and visions which saved lives and, in some instances, changed the course of history. Our family also have had many significant dreams and visions during our time together. Here I share some of them and explain their significance.

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What is God's Intention for You and Your Life?

Many of us think that the purpose of God for our life is bound to be something we will find difficult, and therefore we will have to be persuaded to buy into it in one of our better moments.

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An Impact of Revival: Prison Transformation

In October 1995, Susan and I visited Argentina, with a group from Northern England, at the invitation of Ed Silvoso of Harvest Evangelism. The purpose of the visit was to witness the revival that had been running there for more than 10 years. I had read a lot about Revivals in Church History and wanted to see one first-hand.

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Healing

I was away with my family and our church at an annual Bible Week in Staffordshire, when I experienced a searing pain through my chest. It felt like I had been pierced by a hot sword. I was rushed into hospital in Stafford. I was given pethidine for the pain and placed on a diet of nil-by-mouth, apart from 30 mls of water per hour. I was on this diet for three weeks. I had no appetite anyway and felt very unwell. The diagnosis was pancreatitis, which was life-threatening.

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Breaking a Habit or Other Disorder

We face battles in our lives over various issues and problems: Its part of the fight of faith. For example: A weight issue or eating disorder, a habit or addiction, anxiety or fear, a negative or unwanted way of thinking, or a character flaw that needs correcting....

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In Practice Salvation can be a very Messy Business

I never found taking steps of faith easy. perhaps I thought too much about it and found it difficult to simply believe ....

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Beating Stress

A recent BUPA study of 10,000 people found that 44% of the 66.5 million people in the UK suffer from stress. Of these, 16.5 million (1 in 4) suffer from long-term stress; the kind that inevitably leads to anxiety and depression. Stress and anxiety are the two biggest causes of sick leave in the UK, costing the country about £6 billion a year.....

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There is no teacher like first–hand experience

Many years ago, before Susan and I were married, Holy Spirit gave me these verses from the Bible: Trust the Lord with all your heart, and do not depend on what you think you know. Seek His will in everything you do, and He will show the right way (Prov.3:5-6). .....

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Learning to Hear from God

Who is God to you; a taskmaster or a Father? Personal experience has taught me to be a receiver, because God is a Giver .....

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The Vital Nature of Rest

Did you know that inner rest and peace are a vital necessity for every believer in Jesus? If you don't have these you will have a hard time when confronted with the troubles of life that come to each of us.....

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Handling Change (or Negotiating Transition)

None of us likes too much change (unless we do not like what we are currently doing). But, with God, change (or transition) is His way of preparing you for the new assignment or position He has for you......

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Understanding How God Works 

When I was a young Christian some well-meaning people told me, “You can be to heavenly minded to be of any earthly use”.

More recently I have found that the way God sees things (and therefore what He does here on earth) is often quite different from the way most Christians see things (and therefore what they would do)…..

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Do you know you are loved by God?

If you do not know that you are completely and utterly loved by God, it will have some seriously negative effects on your life as a Christian. God does not love you because you are a nice person or because you are lovable……

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What does Scripture mean when it says that we are "in Christ Jesus"? 

The phase "in Christ Jesus" is used a lot in the New Testament, especially by Paul. Jesus also referred to it in John 15, commanding his disciples to "abide in Him"........

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Dealing with Fear, Worry, Stress and Anxiety

It is vital to our well-being that we count on the fact that God is far bigger than the problems and circumstances that arise in our lives.
If we don’t do this, we are in danger of becoming victims of our own short comings and weaknesses…….

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How do you know what you think you have heard from God is actually from God?

There are five simple steps you can use to check the authenticity of what you have heard ...

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Being powerful is like being a lady, if you have to tell people you are, then you aren't. Margaret Thatcher
The Christian does not think God will love us because we are good, but God will make us good because he loves us. C S Lewis
Fear is misplaced faith. Kris Vallotton
God has already seen every mistake, every failure and every weakness, and the good news is he's already forgiven you. He is not holding it against you. Joel Osteen
God is not nearly so interested in changing your circumstances as he is in changing you. Joyce Meyer
Pray, and let God worry Martin Luther
Those who never change their mind never change anything. Winston Churchill
What you do (for a living) is not who you are.  Celia Apeagyei-Collins 
 People who write you off when you fail know nothing about history and even less about life. No person ever fully succeeds until they fully fail. Lance Wallnau 
There is no uncreated being except God. God has no opposite. Satan, the leader or dictator of devils, is the opposite, not of God, but of Michael.  C S Lewis
He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose. Jim Elliot
You never know how much you really believe anything until it's truth or falsehood becomes a matter of life or death to you. C S Lewis
If you know you are loved, faith is easy. It's easy to trust someone you know loves you. David Forster
Every moment that you spend upset, despaired, anguished, angry, afraid or hurt, because of the behaviour of someone else in your life, is a moment in which you have given up control of your life. Unknown
Remember, you do not have to live today by how you feel, nor by what you think about yourself, nor by what someone else thinks about you. The person who created you thinks you are wonderful, and he waits with open arms for you to agree with him. David Forster
Shift gears from doing something in God's presence to simply being in God's presence. Lance Wallnau
Your future doesn't depend on what is in front of you, it depends on who is in you. Lance Wallnau
Did you know that you are utterly and completely loved by God, without doing a single thing, good or bad. David Forster
no one knows how bad they are until they have tried very hard to be good.. C S Lewis
If we are living daily by faith, we will be constantly over our head; Beyond our ability to do this our that. We should all be in that place in some area of our life. If we are not, we will be like an old wineskin; too rigid and inflexible to receive the Lord's new wine. Rick Joyner
For a believer intimacy with God is not an option, it's a necessity. Guidance and direction depend on this intimacy and sensitivity to Holy Spirit. There is no substitute for the latter. Graham Cooke
Jesus reveals the Father to us. He gives us peace and rest. He is not a hard taskmaster. David Forster
The God who creates everything, pursues you. Don't let anyone tell you you're are worth less than that. Louie Giglio
In the kingdom, physical obedience brings spiritual release. Bill Johnson
Don't be surprised if you pray for nearness to God and he sends a trial. Nearness always requires dependence. Desiringgod.org
Our corporate worship doesn't meet a need in God, it meets a need in us. Sam Storms
How you feel is not who you are. Feelings are great servants and terrible masters. Kris Vallotton
There is a lot that is good in your life. Don't take it for granted. Don't get so focused on the struggle that you mis the gift of today. Joel Osteen
The enemy commits identity theft when you believe you must earn what God freely gives. Alison Brown
If you agree with your creator and receive what he freely gives, you will have serenity in your identity and confidence in your countenance. David Forster
If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got. David Forster
A satisfying and exciting life organises around an identity focused on Jesus, not the church..  Graham Cooke
Satan cannot impose his will on anyone, he has to have our agreement.  Graham Cooke
Every day adjust yourself to where God is taking you, that is, toward the prophetic vision he has given you. Lance Wallnau
Real faith is not faith in an outcome (of a particular situation or circumstance), it's faith in a person. David Forster
Be in no doubt that God will redeem the losses and mistakes of your past life. David Forster
God cannot give us happiness and peace apart from himself, because there is simply no such thing. C S Lewis
Wealth, women and status; these are the major temptations that can draw a man away from God. Each is morally neutral; yet given the appropriate significance, each can control us. David Forster
The devil's finest trick is to persuade you that he doesn't exist. Anon
Fear is the enemy of love. The two cannot exist together. We have to choose daily: Fear or Love. David Forster
You are not saved because of the quality of your faith. You are saved because of the object of your faith; The Redeemer! Tim Keller
Revival goes from the bottom up; Reformation goes from the top down. Therefore reformation is institutional and revival is personal. Lance Wallnau
Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts. Albert Einstein
Inner peace is key to experiencing God's presence. Rest is a weapon against the enemy Graham Cooke
Fairy tales don't tell children that dragons exist. Children know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children that dragons can be killed. G K Chesterton
When you are at peace with God, you will be at peace with yourself and with other people. David Forster
You can believe in Christianity in the same way you believe that the sun has risen; Firstly, because you see it and secondly because by it you see everything else. C S Lewis
A little while ago I became old enough to start believing in fairy tales again. This means there are far better things ahead of me then what I have left behind. C S Lewis
Your unfinished destiny is your most potent argument with death. Graham Cooke
I am not focused on what I am not, I am focused on what he is for me. David Forster
Reaching the Heights