Are You Emotionally Intelligent? Part 1

In my previous blog I gave an outline of the traits of Emotionally Intelligent (EQ) people. You can take a scientifically validated test to ascertain your level of EQ, but these are not free. However, the following behaviours, in addition to those already described in the previous blog, are the hallmarks of high EQ:

  • EQ people are socially aware. They can “read” other people; understanding their motivations, even the hidden ones. This ability, over time, makes them a good judge of character.
  • EQ people are self-confident, open-minded and thick skinned. They can laugh at themselves and let others make jokes about them. This is because they have a clear idea of who they are, and therefore they are not easily offended.
  • EQ people have good self-control. They avoid impulsive reaction and they know when to say, “No”, both to themselves and others. This is very important in a busy or high-profile life, because it avoids stress, burn-out and even depression.
  • EQ people learn from their mistakes. Their self-awareness is good enough to allow them to forgive themselves and put mistakes behind them. At the same time, they remember mistakes sufficiently well to avoid repeating them. When they fall, they are able to get up and start again without dwelling on the fall.
  • QE people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others. They give, not expecting anything in return.
  • EQ people don’t hold grudges. The negative emotions arising from holding grudges gives rise to stress, which is not good for their health. When a threat has passed, they are able to let it go and focus on the present and the future.

Part 2 of this blog will outline some more things that high EQ people both do and don’t do, as the case may be.

Credit: The information in this blog was gleaned from Forbes Internet Bulletin on Leadership, June 2015, by Travis Bradbury.

 

 


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