In my last blog, “Habits which enable you to become a better leader”, I was talking about important leadership qualities for parents and grandparents as well as more recognised leadership roles, like teacher, manager and supervisor. In this blog I want to identify areas of personal discipline which characterise successful people. It includes all of the leadership roles mentioned, as well as areas of influence you may have in your normal weekly activities.
To be a successful person, whatever your personal circumstances, self-mastery in the following areas is vital.
Moods: Our emotions are subject to daily, even hourly mood-swingsdepending on how we feel and our current circumstances. It is therefore very important, to you and those you connect with, to ensure that you live by your commitments and not your feelings. Feelings are important servants, but we cannot allow them to be our masters. If we do, it will harm our reputation and de-value of our influence. If you arrange to do something, even informally (by word of mouth), make sure you honour your word – whether you feel like it or not. People who do the right thing, even when they don’t feel like it, achieve most of what gets done in the world, their family and their area of influence.
Words: Equally important in relation to your reputation and influence is what you say. Our words have a profound effect on others. The way we use our speech can either inspire or bore, encourage or put-down. Praise and encouragement are almost always positive and up-building. Pessimism, cynicism, sarcasm and negativity rarely have any positive effect on people or situations. Neither do tired, fearful, worried, angry, anxious, frustrated or sad people. So watch your words and practice positivity.
Reactions: A lot of good influence can be lost through short temper. How much can you take before you lose your composure and react out of frustration or anger? Self-control in this area takes practice, but it’s a discipline worth learning if you want to keep your relationships open and healthy. When some- one wrongs you, don’t return it tit-for-tat.
Time: If you don’t decide how to spend your time, then someone else will. Have you ever wondered where the time has gone, because it seems to have flashed by so quickly? Time is precious. It’s so important to live in the moment and not miss the daily joys of life, whilst you also handle it’s difficulties and unforeseen circumstances. Having said this, we still need a schedule to determine how, largely speaking, we spend our time. Work, family, rest and recreation, sleep: Time for things that really matter to you.
Health: Priorities are important in our busy modern world. Don’t forget, however, allocate time for self and rest: This is not selfish but essential. Indeed, how we spend our time can affect our health and well-being. Being too busy or not having enough stimulus in your life can burn you out or make you a dissatisfied person, respectively. We need to form good habits in our eating, sleeping and activities. This will keep our energy levels high and help us get through stressful seasons in good shape, both mentally and physically. We need to enjoy our success and achievements. We also need to learn from failures and move on quickly: Don’t dwell too long on the areas of failure or disappointment. Our health depends on us moving on.
Money: To be successful we have to manage our money. Successful people learn to live on less than their monthly income. They invest the difference in savings and giving to causes that matter most to them. A budget determines where you want your money to go. Otherwise you may be left wondering where it went!
Where do you need to develop self-control?
Today’s habits will determine tomorrows success.
Warning: It takes more than will-power to produce lasting self-control. I suggest the more you accept God’s control over your life, the more self-control he will give you.
|Being powerful is like being a lady, if you have to tell people you are, then you aren't.||Margaret Thatcher|
|The Christian does not think God will love us because we are good, but God will make us good because he loves us.||C S Lewis|
|Fear is misplaced faith.||Kris Vallotton|
|God has already seen every mistake, every failure and every weakness, and the good news is he's already forgiven you. He is not holding it against you.||Joel Osteen|
|God is not nearly so interested in changing your circumstances as he is in changing you.||Joyce Meyer|
|Pray, and let God worry||Martin Luther|
|Those who never change their mind never change anything.||Winston Churchill|
|What you do (for a living) is not who you are.||Celia Apeagyei-Collins|
|People who write you off when you fail know nothing about history and even less about life. No person ever fully succeeds until they fully fail.||Lance Wallnau|
|There is no uncreated being except God. God has no opposite. Satan, the leader or dictator of devils, is the opposite, not of God, but of Michael.||C S Lewis|
|He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.||Jim Elliot|
|You never know how much you really believe anything until it's truth or falsehood becomes a matter of life or death to you.||C S Lewis|
|If you know you are loved, faith is easy. It's easy to trust someone you know loves you.||David Forster|
|Every moment that you spend upset, despaired, anguished, angry, afraid or hurt, because of the behaviour of someone else in your life, is a moment in which you have given up control of your life.||Unknown|
|Remember, you do not have to live today by how you feel, nor by what you think about yourself, nor by what someone else thinks about you. The person who created you thinks you are wonderful, and he waits with open arms for you to agree with him.||David Forster|
|Shift gears from doing something in God's presence to simply being in God's presence.||Lance Wallnau|
|Your future doesn't depend on what is in front of you, it depends on who is in you.||Lance Wallnau|
|Did you know that you are utterly and completely loved by God, without doing a single thing, good or bad.||David Forster|
|no one knows how bad they are until they have tried very hard to be good..||C S Lewis|
|If we are living daily by faith, we will be constantly over our head; Beyond our ability to do this our that. We should all be in that place in some area of our life. If we are not, we will be like an old wineskin; too rigid and inflexible to receive the Lord's new wine.||Rick Joyner|
|For a believer intimacy with God is not an option, it's a necessity. Guidance and direction depend on this intimacy and sensitivity to Holy Spirit. There is no substitute for the latter.||Graham Cooke|
|Jesus reveals the Father to us. He gives us peace and rest. He is not a hard taskmaster.||David Forster|
|The God who creates everything, pursues you. Don't let anyone tell you you're are worth less than that.||Louie Giglio|
|In the kingdom, physical obedience brings spiritual release.||Bill Johnson|
|Don't be surprised if you pray for nearness to God and he sends a trial. Nearness always requires dependence.||Desiringgod.org|
|Our corporate worship doesn't meet a need in God, it meets a need in us.||Sam Storms|
|How you feel is not who you are. Feelings are great servants and terrible masters.||Kris Vallotton|
|There is a lot that is good in your life. Don't take it for granted. Don't get so focused on the struggle that you mis the gift of today.||Joel Osteen|
|The enemy commits identity theft when you believe you must earn what God freely gives.||Alison Brown|
|If you agree with your creator and receive what he freely gives, you will have serenity in your identity and confidence in your countenance.||David Forster|
|If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got.||David Forster|
|A satisfying and exciting life organises around an identity focused on Jesus, not the church..||Graham Cooke|
|Satan cannot impose his will on anyone, he has to have our agreement.||Graham Cooke|
|Every day adjust yourself to where God is taking you, that is, toward the prophetic vision he has given you.||Lance Wallnau|
|Real faith is not faith in an outcome (of a particular situation or circumstance), it's faith in a person.||David Forster|
|Be in no doubt that God will redeem the losses and mistakes of your past life.||David Forster|
|God cannot give us happiness and peace apart from himself, because there is simply no such thing.||C S Lewis|
|Wealth, women and status; these are the major temptations that can draw a man away from God. Each is morally neutral; yet given the appropriate significance, each can control us.||David Forster|
|The devil's finest trick is to persuade you that he doesn't exist.||Anon|
|Fear is the enemy of love. The two cannot exist together. We have to choose daily: Fear or Love.||David Forster|
|You are not saved because of the quality of your faith. You are saved because of the object of your faith; The Redeemer!||Tim Keller|
|Revival goes from the bottom up; Reformation goes from the top down. Therefore reformation is institutional and revival is personal.||Lance Wallnau|
|Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts.||Albert Einstein|
|Inner peace is key to experiencing God's presence. Rest is a weapon against the enemy||Graham Cooke|
|Fairy tales don't tell children that dragons exist. Children know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children that dragons can be killed.||G K Chesterton|
|When you are at peace with God, you will be at peace with yourself and with other people.||David Forster|
|You can believe in Christianity in the same way you believe that the sun has risen; Firstly, because you see it and secondly because by it you see everything else.||C S Lewis|
|A little while ago I became old enough to start believing in fairy tales again. This means there are far better things ahead of me then what I have left behind.||C S Lewis|
|Your unfinished destiny is your most potent argument with death.||Graham Cooke|
|I am not focused on what I am not, I am focused on what he is for me.||David Forster|