Honesty is truthfulness, trustworthiness and genuineness. Trust is probably the single most important ingredient for family, friendship or business success. Honesty/integrity lead to trust. C S Lewis defines integrity as “doing the right thing all of the time, even when no one is looking – especially when no one is looking”. A simple check could go something like this: Would I want my son/daughter or someone else I love to see me doing or saying this? If not, then why am I doing/saying it?
If you ask company executives to reveal their “core values”, integrity is always one of the first mentioned. So says, Joel Peterson, chairman of the board of JetBlue Airways & Professor of Management at Stanford University.
Building trust and modelling it for others, whether work colleagues, family or friends, requires openness and honesty. It means honouring your promises to your wife and children, your friends and your work colleagues. If you say you are going to be there, your word should be as good as your presence. Therefore, before you make a commitment to anyone you need to be sure you can honour it. However, you must be careful what you promise and to whom. You have to be able to say, “No”, sometimes. Otherwise, fairly quickly, your life will no longer be your own, because you will have become overcommitted.
We are well advised to try to avoid knee-jerk reactions when responding to unexpected or even shocking situations. For example, persistently disobedient children who constantly push against legitimate parental boundaries, on which you need to remain firm.
Please pay attention to your communication skills. Do not negotiate with your children over something you have already made clear. They are pushing you to move your boundary so that they can get their own way. In the work context, make sure you proof read your written communications before you issue them. Also plan your oral presentations and phone calls beforehand.
Develop your skills at listening rather than thinking about what you are going to say next, whether it’s with your children or your work colleagues. Take care with your responses: impulsive or sugar-coated responses may be seen as condescending or put-offs. Try not to spend time justifying yourself to your wife, kids or colleagues. It’s much better for your reputation if you simply contain, as much as possible, any damage you may have caused. Don’t be afraid to admit it and apologise.
Be careful how you express yourself when talking about sensitive issues such as sex, sexual preference, race, or faith/religion. This applies to both your children and your work context, even though the contexts require you to play different roles.
Don’t do business with people who are dishonest. Don’t make excuses for them. Others pay attention to who you associate with and judge you by the friends you keep. Check your level of honesty by asking yourself the following questions:
Am I willing to risk being wrong?
Am I willing to take responsibility for what has happened?
Am I leading by example, whether at home or at work?
Does my conduct commend my honesty with my wife, my family, my work colleagues?
|Being powerful is like being a lady, if you have to tell people you are, then you aren't.||Margaret Thatcher|
|The Christian does not think God will love us because we are good, but God will make us good because he loves us.||C S Lewis|
|Fear is misplaced faith.||Kris Vallotton|
|God has already seen every mistake, every failure and every weakness, and the good news is he's already forgiven you. He is not holding it against you.||Joel Osteen|
|God is not nearly so interested in changing your circumstances as he is in changing you.||Joyce Meyer|
|Pray, and let God worry||Martin Luther|
|Those who never change their mind never change anything.||Winston Churchill|
|What you do (for a living) is not who you are.||Celia Apeagyei-Collins|
|People who write you off when you fail know nothing about history and even less about life. No person ever fully succeeds until they fully fail.||Lance Wallnau|
|There is no uncreated being except God. God has no opposite. Satan, the leader or dictator of devils, is the opposite, not of God, but of Michael.||C S Lewis|
|He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.||Jim Elliot|
|You never know how much you really believe anything until it's truth or falsehood becomes a matter of life or death to you.||C S Lewis|
|If you know you are loved, faith is easy. It's easy to trust someone you know loves you.||David Forster|
|Every moment that you spend upset, despaired, anguished, angry, afraid or hurt, because of the behaviour of someone else in your life, is a moment in which you have given up control of your life.||Unknown|
|Remember, you do not have to live today by how you feel, nor by what you think about yourself, nor by what someone else thinks about you. The person who created you thinks you are wonderful, and he waits with open arms for you to agree with him.||David Forster|
|Shift gears from doing something in God's presence to simply being in God's presence.||Lance Wallnau|
|Your future doesn't depend on what is in front of you, it depends on who is in you.||Lance Wallnau|
|Did you know that you are utterly and completely loved by God, without doing a single thing, good or bad.||David Forster|
|no one knows how bad they are until they have tried very hard to be good..||C S Lewis|
|If we are living daily by faith, we will be constantly over our head; Beyond our ability to do this our that. We should all be in that place in some area of our life. If we are not, we will be like an old wineskin; too rigid and inflexible to receive the Lord's new wine.||Rick Joyner|
|For a believer intimacy with God is not an option, it's a necessity. Guidance and direction depend on this intimacy and sensitivity to Holy Spirit. There is no substitute for the latter.||Graham Cooke|
|Jesus reveals the Father to us. He gives us peace and rest. He is not a hard taskmaster.||David Forster|
|The God who creates everything, pursues you. Don't let anyone tell you you're are worth less than that.||Louie Giglio|
|In the kingdom, physical obedience brings spiritual release.||Bill Johnson|
|Don't be surprised if you pray for nearness to God and he sends a trial. Nearness always requires dependence.||Desiringgod.org|
|Our corporate worship doesn't meet a need in God, it meets a need in us.||Sam Storms|
|How you feel is not who you are. Feelings are great servants and terrible masters.||Kris Vallotton|
|There is a lot that is good in your life. Don't take it for granted. Don't get so focused on the struggle that you mis the gift of today.||Joel Osteen|
|The enemy commits identity theft when you believe you must earn what God freely gives.||Alison Brown|
|If you agree with your creator and receive what he freely gives, you will have serenity in your identity and confidence in your countenance.||David Forster|
|If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got.||David Forster|
|A satisfying and exciting life organises around an identity focused on Jesus, not the church..||Graham Cooke|
|Satan cannot impose his will on anyone, he has to have our agreement.||Graham Cooke|
|Every day adjust yourself to where God is taking you, that is, toward the prophetic vision he has given you.||Lance Wallnau|
|Real faith is not faith in an outcome (of a particular situation or circumstance), it's faith in a person.||David Forster|
|Be in no doubt that God will redeem the losses and mistakes of your past life.||David Forster|
|God cannot give us happiness and peace apart from himself, because there is simply no such thing.||C S Lewis|
|Wealth, women and status; these are the major temptations that can draw a man away from God. Each is morally neutral; yet given the appropriate significance, each can control us.||David Forster|
|The devil's finest trick is to persuade you that he doesn't exist.||Anon|
|Fear is the enemy of love. The two cannot exist together. We have to choose daily: Fear or Love.||David Forster|
|You are not saved because of the quality of your faith. You are saved because of the object of your faith; The Redeemer!||Tim Keller|
|Revival goes from the bottom up; Reformation goes from the top down. Therefore reformation is institutional and revival is personal.||Lance Wallnau|
|Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts.||Albert Einstein|
|Inner peace is key to experiencing God's presence. Rest is a weapon against the enemy||Graham Cooke|
|Fairy tales don't tell children that dragons exist. Children know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children that dragons can be killed.||G K Chesterton|
|When you are at peace with God, you will be at peace with yourself and with other people.||David Forster|
|You can believe in Christianity in the same way you believe that the sun has risen; Firstly, because you see it and secondly because by it you see everything else.||C S Lewis|
|A little while ago I became old enough to start believing in fairy tales again. This means there are far better things ahead of me then what I have left behind.||C S Lewis|
|Your unfinished destiny is your most potent argument with death.||Graham Cooke|
|I am not focused on what I am not, I am focused on what he is for me.||David Forster|