Have you ever made a decision or said something which you immediately regretted, wishing you could turn the clock back and change what you had decided or spoken?
Perhaps you have had to live with that regret for many years. Maybe you have never really got over it, because it changed the course of your life. Regrets can follow us into the future, sometimes causing us great shame or recurring heart ache.
When I was 19, I broke off a relationship with my first girlfriend. We had been going out together for 2 years. I had got to a point where I felt trapped. I didn’t know if she was to be my future partner. I think, at that time, the idea of such a commitment was far too much to contemplate. I just couldn’t deal with it. On reflection I wasn’t ready for such.
I think she was in love with me, and I with her – although I didn’t know it at the time, not being sufficiently in touch with my own feelings. The result was she was very hurt and I was free, at least until 4 weeks later, when I saw her with another young man. I was devastated! It hit the pit of my stomach. I had never experienced the feeling before, nor have I since. O tried to get back together with her, but she had changed. She didn’t reject me, but I was no longer exclusively “the one”. I couldn’t cope with that.
It took me a very long time, probably about 5 years, to get over the regret I felt over that decision. Thankfully I met and married another girl who was much more suited to me (the more mature me), and I really did (and do) love her. We have now had 4 children and 6 grandchildren in our almost 5 decades together. I have no regrets about that, but unrequited regrets can beset us for the rest of our lives, unless they are satisfied, or perhaps I should say, stripped of their power.
Regrets can follow you into the future, lock you into the past or strip you of joy and the enjoyment of life. They can ruin your current performance and prevent you from fulfilling your destiny in life. They can leave you with shame that you feel unable to transcend. But love rewrites our history. In my case I recovered from my regret. I discovered God had other things for me and he eventually brought me to the woman who become the love of my life. In fact when she first saw me (before I had met her) she “Just knew that I was the man she was going to marry”. I was unaware of this until some time after we were married.
It is possible, as a result of suffering loss, that you can decide not to allow yourself to be hurt again. But that usually means, by implication, you will not allow yourself to be loved again either. You can only be loved to the level you can be hurt. It’s a law of life. Loving someone is a risk. It may not be reciprocated, in which case hurt/rejection is inevitable.
Therefore it is very important to our future that we are able to move on from hurt and regret. Forgiving yourself for making bad decisions and for saying/doing things you later regret is essential. I found this much easier when I realised that God had forgiven me for so much of what I had said and done. It has enabled me to move on without regret and guilt.
|Being powerful is like being a lady, if you have to tell people you are, then you aren't.||Margaret Thatcher|
|The Christian does not think God will love us because we are good, but God will make us good because he loves us.||C S Lewis|
|Fear is misplaced faith.||Kris Vallotton|
|God has already seen every mistake, every failure and every weakness, and the good news is he's already forgiven you. He is not holding it against you.||Joel Osteen|
|God is not nearly so interested in changing your circumstances as he is in changing you.||Joyce Meyer|
|Pray, and let God worry||Martin Luther|
|Those who never change their mind never change anything.||Winston Churchill|
|What you do (for a living) is not who you are.||Celia Apeagyei-Collins|
|People who write you off when you fail know nothing about history and even less about life. No person ever fully succeeds until they fully fail.||Lance Wallnau|
|There is no uncreated being except God. God has no opposite. Satan, the leader or dictator of devils, is the opposite, not of God, but of Michael.||C S Lewis|
|He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.||Jim Elliot|
|You never know how much you really believe anything until it's truth or falsehood becomes a matter of life or death to you.||C S Lewis|
|If you know you are loved, faith is easy. It's easy to trust someone you know loves you.||David Forster|
|Every moment that you spend upset, despaired, anguished, angry, afraid or hurt, because of the behaviour of someone else in your life, is a moment in which you have given up control of your life.||Unknown|
|Remember, you do not have to live today by how you feel, nor by what you think about yourself, nor by what someone else thinks about you. The person who created you thinks you are wonderful, and he waits with open arms for you to agree with him.||David Forster|
|Shift gears from doing something in God's presence to simply being in God's presence.||Lance Wallnau|
|Your future doesn't depend on what is in front of you, it depends on who is in you.||Lance Wallnau|
|Did you know that you are utterly and completely loved by God, without doing a single thing, good or bad.||David Forster|
|no one knows how bad they are until they have tried very hard to be good..||C S Lewis|
|If we are living daily by faith, we will be constantly over our head; Beyond our ability to do this our that. We should all be in that place in some area of our life. If we are not, we will be like an old wineskin; too rigid and inflexible to receive the Lord's new wine.||Rick Joyner|
|For a believer intimacy with God is not an option, it's a necessity. Guidance and direction depend on this intimacy and sensitivity to Holy Spirit. There is no substitute for the latter.||Graham Cooke|
|Jesus reveals the Father to us. He gives us peace and rest. He is not a hard taskmaster.||David Forster|
|The God who creates everything, pursues you. Don't let anyone tell you you're are worth less than that.||Louie Giglio|
|In the kingdom, physical obedience brings spiritual release.||Bill Johnson|
|Don't be surprised if you pray for nearness to God and he sends a trial. Nearness always requires dependence.||Desiringgod.org|
|Our corporate worship doesn't meet a need in God, it meets a need in us.||Sam Storms|
|How you feel is not who you are. Feelings are great servants and terrible masters.||Kris Vallotton|
|There is a lot that is good in your life. Don't take it for granted. Don't get so focused on the struggle that you mis the gift of today.||Joel Osteen|
|The enemy commits identity theft when you believe you must earn what God freely gives.||Alison Brown|
|If you agree with your creator and receive what he freely gives, you will have serenity in your identity and confidence in your countenance.||David Forster|
|If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got.||David Forster|
|A satisfying and exciting life organises around an identity focused on Jesus, not the church..||Graham Cooke|
|Satan cannot impose his will on anyone, he has to have our agreement.||Graham Cooke|
|Every day adjust yourself to where God is taking you, that is, toward the prophetic vision he has given you.||Lance Wallnau|
|Real faith is not faith in an outcome (of a particular situation or circumstance), it's faith in a person.||David Forster|
|Be in no doubt that God will redeem the losses and mistakes of your past life.||David Forster|
|God cannot give us happiness and peace apart from himself, because there is simply no such thing.||C S Lewis|
|Wealth, women and status; these are the major temptations that can draw a man away from God. Each is morally neutral; yet given the appropriate significance, each can control us.||David Forster|
|The devil's finest trick is to persuade you that he doesn't exist.||Anon|
|Fear is the enemy of love. The two cannot exist together. We have to choose daily: Fear or Love.||David Forster|
|You are not saved because of the quality of your faith. You are saved because of the object of your faith; The Redeemer!||Tim Keller|
|Revival goes from the bottom up; Reformation goes from the top down. Therefore reformation is institutional and revival is personal.||Lance Wallnau|
|Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts.||Albert Einstein|
|Inner peace is key to experiencing God's presence. Rest is a weapon against the enemy||Graham Cooke|
|Fairy tales don't tell children that dragons exist. Children know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children that dragons can be killed.||G K Chesterton|
|When you are at peace with God, you will be at peace with yourself and with other people.||David Forster|
|You can believe in Christianity in the same way you believe that the sun has risen; Firstly, because you see it and secondly because by it you see everything else.||C S Lewis|
|A little while ago I became old enough to start believing in fairy tales again. This means there are far better things ahead of me then what I have left behind.||C S Lewis|
|Your unfinished destiny is your most potent argument with death.||Graham Cooke|
|I am not focused on what I am not, I am focused on what he is for me.||David Forster|