Reaching the Heights - Not so Secret Secrets

Not so Secret Secrets

We all want to see good progress and improvement in our: Jobs/careers, callings, families, relationships and passions (things we enjoy and look forward to doing). So what makes for such progress in these areas? Are there common factors?

Dr Ivan Misner, founder and chairman of BNI, the world’s largest business networking organisation, with 5.4 million referrals and over $6.5 billion in resulting revenue, says this, “Success is the uncommon application of common knowledge”. Being interpretated, it means that success is not about learning something new, but applying what we already know. Things like: vision, honesty, gratefulness and the ability to be flexible and adapt.

Having vision means we need to answer a basic question: What do I really want? This may mean a mission statement, a brand identity, a personal calling, core values or simply some personal goals. Whichever it is, you have to have a clear idea of what you want to do, in your work or your personal life. Then you need the strength of character to persist, regardless of setbacks and failures. Clarity usually means you can write it down. Around 80% of successful people have a “to do” list and are able to focus on a specific objective.

It seems trite to say that telling the truth is a vital ingredient of success (in our personal and business life). It sounds like a moral issue – the bible talks about the truth and its value. But in the modern world there is pressure to look good, perform well and win (eg. make a profit) by whatever means. Honesty is becoming increasingly scarce. However, according to research by Robert Cialdini’s “Yes! 50 Scientifically Proven Ways to Be Persuasive”, when companies explained failures in their annual reports, those that pointed to internal and controllable factors had higher stock values one year later than those that cited external and uncontrollable factors. So taking responsibility for mistakes and admitting when you got it wrong isn’t just a good core value in relationships, it works in business too. Warren Bennis says in his book “Becoming a Leader”, “Leaders never lie to themselves, especially about themselves….You are your own raw material”. Again, it sounds like a lesson in morality rather than business, doesn’t it?

We are inclined to see gratitude as a spontaneous response to a moment of triumph, success or relief. Actually it is something we develop: We have to choose it. Developing an attitude of gratitude is something that enhances our experience, if we are not grateful for the good things we experience, how can we enjoy our successes? How, indeed can we even enjoy life? We need to look for reasons to be grateful and, when appropriate,say “Thank you”. This cultivates an attitude of gratitude which, when applied persistently, will become a culture.

Finally, being adaptable/flexible means that when something doesn’t work, whether it’s an experiment (like Edison’s 1000+ experiments to find a commercially viable electric light bulb) or a failing relationship, we must realise that success is not avoiding failure, it’s learning from it. Finding out what parts of your experiment or relationship are working and which are not is key. Then having the flexibility to adapt so that failed approaches are corrected. When I discuss a problem or issue with my wife and we have a disagreement, I have learned that if I expect an instant response from her it is usually negative. However, if I leave it with her for a while (usually days), she will come back to me with another approach to the problem which usually resolves the issue. And to be clear, it’s not always whatI wanted in the first place, it’s invariably as good or better. She has mulled it over and adjusted her view ( and sometimes mine also) to came up with what is often a better alternative.

(Acknowledgement: I am indebted to Aaron Orendorff for an article entitled, “4 Secrets of Insanely Successful People”, Success Magazine, 19 Feb. 2015)

Great faith is the product of great fights. Great testimonies are the outcome of great tests. Great triumphs can only come out of great trials. Smith Wigglesworth
In times of change, learners inherit the earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to deal with a world that no longer exists. Eric Hoffer
Take what bothers you most as an invitation by God to work at solving that problem. Lance Wallnau
Without grace, life is filled with struggle, it is not a life we enjoy; but with his grace, we can enter the rest (peace) of the Lord and experience joy unspeakable and full of glory. Joyce Meyer
You never lose; you win or you learn. Nelson Mandela
Your behaviour won't change until your thoughts change. As long as you think, "I can't do this", you are never going to be able to do it! Joyce Meyer
I am not moved by what I see. I am not moved by what I feel. I am only moved by what I believe. Smith Wigglesworth
Leadership is not about titles, positions or flow charts. It's about one life influencing another. John Maxwell
If God is enthroned on my praise, who is enthroned on my complaining? If I enter his gates with praise, who's gates am I entering when I complain? Bill Johnson
When we believe in God's sovereignty, and not our own understanding, we'll see how our problems will never outweigh what God has promised us (Prov. 3:5 NIV) T D Jakes
Success is doing ordinary things extraordinarily well. Jim Rhon
If I give up my right to understand, He will give me the peace that passes understanding. Bill Johnson
Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill
You can't change your life, but if you change your mind, God will transform your life. Kris Vallotton
In prayer we bring our spiritual enemies into the presence of God. Jarrod Cooper
Once in a while we manage to stumble on the truth, but most of us manage to pick ourselves up and hurry along as if nothing had happened. Winston Churchill
The best argument against democracy is a five minute conversation with the average voter. Winston Churchill
When the Lord says, "Do something", the favour needed to do it is already attached to the command. David Forster
Being powerful is like being a lady, if you have to tell people you are, then you aren't. Margaret Thatcher
The Christian does not think God will love us because we are good, but God will make us good because he loves us. C S Lewis
Fear is misplaced faith. Kris Vallotton
God has already seen every mistake, every failure and every weakness, and the good news is he's already forgiven you. He is not holding it against you. Joel Osteen
God is not nearly so interested in changing your circumstances as he is in changing you. Joyce Meyer
Pray, and let God worry Martin Luther
Those who never change their mind never change anything. Winston Churchill
What you do (for a living) is not who you are.  Celia Apeagyei-Collins 
 People who write you off when you fail know nothing about history and even less about life. No person ever fully succeeds until they fully fail. Lance Wallnau 
There is no uncreated being except God. God has no opposite. Satan, the leader or dictator of devils, is the opposite, not of God, but of Michael.  C S Lewis
He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose. Jim Elliot
You never know how much you really believe anything until it's truth or falsehood becomes a matter of life or death to you. C S Lewis
If you know you are loved, faith is easy. It's easy to trust someone you know loves you. David Forster
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Shift gears from doing something in God's presence to simply being in God's presence. Lance Wallnau
Your future doesn't depend on what is in front of you, it depends on who is in you. Lance Wallnau
Did you know that you are utterly and completely loved by God, without doing a single thing, good or bad. David Forster
no one knows how bad they are until they have tried very hard to be good.. C S Lewis
If we are living daily by faith, we will be constantly over our head; Beyond our ability to do this our that. We should all be in that place in some area of our life. If we are not, we will be like an old wineskin; too rigid and inflexible to receive the Lord's new wine. Rick Joyner
For a believer intimacy with God is not an option, it's a necessity. Guidance and direction depend on this intimacy and sensitivity to Holy Spirit. There is no substitute for the latter. Graham Cooke
Jesus reveals the Father to us. He gives us peace and rest. He is not a hard taskmaster. David Forster
The God who creates everything, pursues you. Don't let anyone tell you you're are worth less than that. Louie Giglio
In the kingdom, physical obedience brings spiritual release. Bill Johnson
Don't be surprised if you pray for nearness to God and he sends a trial. Nearness always requires dependence. Desiringgod.org
Our corporate worship doesn't meet a need in God, it meets a need in us. Sam Storms
How you feel is not who you are. Feelings are great servants and terrible masters. Kris Vallotton
There is a lot that is good in your life. Don't take it for granted. Don't get so focused on the struggle that you mis the gift of today. Joel Osteen
The enemy commits identity theft when you believe you must earn what God freely gives. Alison Brown
If you agree with your creator and receive what he freely gives, you will have serenity in your identity and confidence in your countenance. David Forster
If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got. David Forster
A satisfying and exciting life organises around an identity focused on Jesus, not the church..  Graham Cooke
Satan cannot impose his will on anyone, he has to have our agreement.  Graham Cooke
Every day adjust yourself to where God is taking you, that is, toward the prophetic vision he has given you. Lance Wallnau
Real faith is not faith in an outcome (of a particular situation or circumstance), it's faith in a person. David Forster
Be in no doubt that God will redeem the losses and mistakes of your past life. David Forster
God cannot give us happiness and peace apart from himself, because there is simply no such thing. C S Lewis
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The devil's finest trick is to persuade you that he doesn't exist. Anon
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You are not saved because of the quality of your faith. You are saved because of the object of your faith; The Redeemer! Tim Keller
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Not everything that counts can be counted, and not everything that can be counted counts. Albert Einstein
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Fairy tales don't tell children that dragons exist. Children know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children that dragons can be killed. G K Chesterton
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You can believe in Christianity in the same way you believe that the sun has risen; Firstly, because you see it and secondly because by it you see everything else. C S Lewis
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Your unfinished destiny is your most potent argument with death. Graham Cooke
I am not focused on what I am not, I am focused on what he is for me. David Forster
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